Twenty years ago if someone had told me I would be the ‘mom’ to a blended family I never would have believed them. But here I am. Most days I love the chaotic, disorganized and busy life of trying to parent my own two children almost 10 and 12 as well as my partner’s two children who are 21 and 24, and also trying to find time to work on and build a relatively new relationship. Other days…well frankly…it is hell. Before the reality of my situation, I dreamed of nightly family dinners where we all sat down together and shared triumphs and tribulations of our days….what a joke that is. Now if once a month I can get everyone to the table at the same time I feel I am doing well. Sometimes I feel like I am fighting a losing battle, and wonder if it is really just me that wants all this family togetherness. But when we are all in the same place at the same time, I do see how important it is to both the younger and older kids and I realize that this is why I try so hard.
April 9th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
nice post!
April 9th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Don’t feel too bad. I’m a mom of two teens and with them always being on the go it is so hard to get all of us at the dinner table.
April 12th, 2009 at 11:26 am
I did not realize how important eating together [most nights] was until I was at work so much that I was usually the absent one. Keep trying and keep the lines open. It is so worth it!
April 12th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
It’s amazing where life takes us, and how different where we end up is, compared to where we thought we’d be!
Don’t feel bad about only getting together once a month, I actually think that’s really good!
April 12th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
My hubby and I have an 11yr old and even trying to get our 3 person family to the dinner table every night together is a battle which I’ll typically win once every few weeks. We’re always on the go, but it’s those together moments that mean so much. So, don’t give up, keep persevering for what you know to be beneficial. Though they may not seem to appreciate it, when they are older, they will look back and truly be thankful for those precious moments.
Cheers,
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LeNesha
P.S. Welcome to the bloggy world
April 12th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
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April 12th, 2009 at 8:34 pm
I think we all try to be as “super” as we can be. But be realistic, we cannt accomplish it all. As a mom of 4 kids age ranges from 24- 2 1/2 (2 boys, 2 girls) I know the feeling. I dont have time for myself b/t work & family already consumed all my time!!